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Today, I share another Island of Silence from Journey Girl; Steps in Secrets and Sanctuary. During this Pandemic of Covid-19, we may tend to stay focused on how so many things around us are changing. We are called upon to make more decisions in our ordinary day to day life. With the world at odds with “either-or” scenarios of successful return to what we call ordinary life and many of our ordinary play spots, like parks and entertainment venues, we need to remember that special part of you that is still calling for the creation of fun in the midst of these serious times and unanswered questions. That part of you is your inner child. Take some time to recognize this child today and find a way to add fun to your day. This day. There’s no time like the present!

Chapter 13 Island of Silence

The giant pine tree grows from a tiny sprout.
The jouney of a thousand miles begins beneath your feet.”   Lao Tzu

A very special child wants your attention today. Your mission is to find this child. It is truly a child, but it has been with you since infancy. Even though you have grown up, this part of you still remains a child and it relates to you as a child. That is possibly the reason you cannot hear this child. It has frolicked with you and your friends when you were a child and knew how to have fun. It is the playful side of you that still wants to have fun now as an adult. It often says, “More, more, more,” until the adult in you stands his ground and says, “Enough!”

This child in you most often thinks in pure, uncomplicated ways, very directly telling you what it wants, what it thinks, and how it is feeling at the moment. This child in you does not want to get lost and ignored as you go about your adult responsibilities. It wants to partner with you to round out your total personality and be able to show up in you in your old age. This child will not abandon you. It sincerely hopes you do not abandon it. This child does not want you to be afraid of it and it does not want to hold childhood secrets that can be lived safely and truthfully when you grow up.

It wants to show up in both your smiles and your tears. It is present in your fearful moments when you are bravest and feel the courage of a lion. This child can even play an important (though mostly silent) role in your adult decision making. This is your inner child and you most often recognize it as your intuition and imagination, and sometimes as a strong innate impulse. This child is part of your self-identification and also shows up in your sense of humor. The child knows that sometimes its impulses need some adjustment and perspective. That is one of the reasons this child wants you to recognize it.

This child is not an imaginary friend. It has been with you from the start on all your journeys. It has been silent and hidden some of the time, noisy and demanding at other times. It is an influencer of your moods. It is absorbed in playing and it has a remarkable acuity to focus in the moment. On the flip side of that, the inner child relishes and partakes freely in total nonsense.
Sometimes this child manifests within you when it wants you to change direction or loosen your grip on a problem you can’t solve. It can be a distracter, an enabler, a supporter, a pioneer on a quest, or a surprise guest that pops out at inopportune times.

Your inner child lives very close to your heart. Science has proven the human heart has an intelligence of its own, much deeper than puppy love. The heart knows what it knows. That is why your inner child can cut swiftly through some of the clutter of the rational mind and be real. In that way, it can help you with a reality you may be facing but not understand.
This child asks you for your heart awareness and attention. That is why you are looking for this child today on this Island of Silence. It wants you to know it does not need to be left back in the past of your real childhood. Like Peter Pan, this part of your personality, both troublesome and helpful, shares a life in you that never dies. It can be a great benefit to you then to build a common practice of acceptance and loving compassion with your inner child. It can help you soothe the areas of your life that are particularly stressful, isolated, and lonely. You can be partners for good in life.

When you finish this time with your inner child, promise each other you will not lose this awareness of your physical, psychological, and spiritual make-up of yourself. Join together in a united desire for both child and adult:

May I be safe. May I be happy. May I be well. May I be peacefully at ease.

May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be well. May you be peacefully at ease.

 

 

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During this time of Covid-19 and our attempt to begin both to return to our working world and our social and cultural pastimes, we are reminded often to pay attention to “safety” for ourselves and others. In fact, not only to pay attention to this safety but to feel our responsibility to be faithful to safe practices, like mask-wearing and social distancing. We hear often, and it is reinforced in commercial ads that “We are in this together.”  And “We will get through this together.

While there is some dissention about  clinging to our individual rights and freedoms, the larger picture and message is one of concern and even some fear of the unknown and left-over effects of both the Pandemic and our individual actions.

There is an upturn of care and thoughts of our family and neighbors; our health care workers; our first-responders; our grocery personnel; our food supply chain truckers who have kept food on our tables. Things could already be so much worse without the bravery and commitment of these people who work daily among the invisible enemy of this disease.

In my soon to be published memoir, Journey Girl; Steps in Secrets and Sanctuary, I reveal how an invisible birth mother, who was never fully explained to me, nor honored in my home growing up, affected me to the point I had to “complete her” in my adult years and make the truth of her a present part of my ancestry and my children’s and grandchildren’s lives going forward. While there was no ill-intent in the secrecy, it was bound and complete, until I could figure out who I could question and where I could search for answers. She was part of my Family Soul. Just as we are now gaining more insight on: We are all part of the Human Family Soul. The call is for each of us to build that up in the way for us most open to do it.

Journey Girl

From: Chapter Eleven,  — Island of Silence:  “Remembering Your Birthright

Science recognizes that we have a family soul. It is evident in our reliance upon DNA. It is required that we give our family medical histories in all new patient interviews. This gives the medical professionals pertinent information they may use to compile a profile of who we are based partially on what was present in our mother and father. They can then use this information to help them determine a satisfactory physical profile of their patients and make medical decisions of treatment with an awareness of possible threats to their physical wellness that arise from history. Science and soul are not at odds.

The fields of psychiatry and neurology and writings in classic literature suggest a longstanding belief that we are more than what we think we are—and this points to our relationship with who came before us in more than a nostalgic sense. Noted psychiatrist Carl Jung said “our souls, as well as our bodies, are composed of individual elements which were already present in the ranks of our ancestors.” This is a partial description of what I mean by a family soul. We often read that the eyes are the mirror to the soul in religious text. Author Ralph Waldo Emerson sounded his agreement by writing, “the eyes indicate the antiquity of the soul.”

Jung also advised, “Learn your theories as well as you can, but put them aside when you touch the miracle of the living soul.” Maybe our whole human being-ness is a theory that evolves along with the miracle of the soul. You sound or look like your mother (only I did not). You notice he stands just like his father or you see your own likeness in a newly discovered photo of your grandmother. Through spirituality, psychology, and science, the miracle of the soul is full of new discoveries.

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Stepping Stones
                Susan Heffron Hajec

By the water’s edge, she sheds her shoes
and steps toward the stone path
winding just off shore.

With no turning back I mind, she releases
the safety of ground beneath her feet
and any doubt that holds her back.

Moving forward is what she intends.
Turning the old version of herself into
the new vision of dreams, ripe and ready
through the soil of her new springtime.

Just as the seedling engages with the soil,
sunshine and rain spins its path
to the light of day.

She mixes risk with courage to bring her plant
to bloom in a world hungry for the sweetness
of flowers and green promise of hope.

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